Part 2. BEING SELECTIVE to find the perfect Facebook Content for you.
a.k.a. whose party is this anyway?
Welcome to part 2 of a 6 part series to inform, support and inspire you to connect in with your natural selective empathic skills when using Facebook. In this section, you’re going to learn all about how to be selective to find the right content, groups and pages that are going to work for you. PLUS the nitty gritty of how to do it. Its comprehensive, so Ive broken it down into a small index below.
By now you’ve got your energy shielding sorted out and intention in place about how you’re going to use Facebook (if you haven’t done that yet? go back to part 1 right now, and get that going !).
It’s time for one of the most important things you can do to make Facebook an awesome experience for you as an empath: Deciding how and where you’re going to spend your time.
Make sense right? Why wander around in circles when we can hang out where the cool kids are. I mean, where’s that party at anyways ? But hold up (cue screeching tires sound!) first we need to pause and take a nerd moment together because it’s time for . . .
According to Zephoria.com, as of November 2017 on Facebook there are:
- 2,070,000,000 active members monthly
- 5 new profiles are created every second
- 16 Million local business pages have been created as of May 2013
- and most interestingly, 83,000,000 profiles are fake
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Begs the question: if there are literally millions of Facebook biz pages and groups out there, and a lot of those aren’t legit, how do you know which ones are going to work for you?
Time to whip on your empathic super suit and go into Selective Stealth Mode empath! You’re about to learn how to use your special gifts to your advantage.
Here’s how you do it:
Get crystal clear about your motives.
Before you even get started, ask yourself: am I using Facebook to hang out and make some new friends, follow someone’s business page, join a group for some community interaction, doing research or maybe something else? If you don’t know exactly why you’re looking for connection or help or community, then your odds of getting overwhelmed and drained by content that doesn’t match your energy is pretty high.
As an empath, you know that part of your coping mechanism is that sometimes you’re going to need a little space from people to shake off the overwhelm. And that’s a very healthy thing. So to make it easier on yourself by getting informed. Here’s something to consider:
Jumping onto Facebook and connecting with others really isn’t being alone.
THE ENERGY IS THE SAME whether you are interacting with people in real life or online. So even if you’re just browsing on your phone, you need to be very careful you’re taking care of yourself.
Know your triggers.
Jumping into Facebook (or any social media for that matter) is entertaining and fun and a whole host of other adjectives. But how about when its not? When you encounter posts, images and energy that drops your vibe like a stone. Besides shielding and getting grounded, its going to be really helpful to know some basics about hanging out in Empath related pages and groups.
For instance, some people have a very difficult time with their empathic abilities. They might be coming from a really raw and vulnerable place and it’s easier for them just to share things that offend, upset or disgust them. Because they’re hurting and dont know what else to do. You’ve seen these posts, you know what I’m talking about.
But before getting all judgey, here’s a gentle reminder; try to be tolerant when others do this. Because we’ve all been there, in one way or another. Sometimes this is a persons only way to reach out and ask for help.
Now that said, if YOU’RE not taking the time to lift up your energy and shield yourself, or if a group’s content is something you already know you’re not in alignment with – why are you going there in the first place?
Unless your specific intention is to use Facebook only to help others (and thank you if you are, because that’s a rare mission), take time to assess your motives. Figure out what the energy exchange is going to be.
I’ll say it again: ENERGY IS THE SAME whether you are interacting with people in real life or online.
Take your time and enjoy snooping around before you commit.
These days there is literally content for everybody. Every single thing you can think of is represented on Facebook. And finding what you want is part of the delight and charm of using it!
Being mindful about what you want to find is going to make it easier and get that Law of Attraction – manifesting vibe going. Start by making a list of some words that feel good to you. Adjective, emotions, descriptors – tap into your empathic superpowers! Then use them for searching Facebook to see what comes up.
And tuck this little tidbit in the back of your mind:
if you simply type “empath” or “sensitive” in the search field you are literally going to get a bajilian-zillian Facebook groups to choose from. I counted. LOL
So refine your search terms (try: empath community, empath support, happy empath, sensitive empaths, empath videos, lightworkers who are empaths, etc.) and use some of those keywords you came up with.
Let your senses guide you. If it feels great, awesome! If not, move on.
And keep in mind there are a couple challenges to find a really good fit in a Facebook group or page:
Some groups are not moderated, so they can be a bit of a free-for-all. Other groups may start out with great intentions but can’t keep it up and might not of changed their description yet.
And a really big consideration is that for some reason the words empath or sensitive are a magnet for people who really get off on being trolls. These folks like to spread a lot of negativity, be provocative and share some really questionable content. Yet another incentive to read the description because one with a great admin/moderator will be very clear on what is acceptable and not acceptable in their groups before you even join.
So keep exercising your empath superpowers!
Put on your stealth mode goggles and use your abilities to feel into it the space.
If the group is public, you can check it out and see it fits. If not take a chance, request to join and be sure you FILL OUT ANY REQUIRED QUESTIONS. Not only are you instantly creating a positive energetic connection by respecting the groups admin/moderator, your approval is pretty much a given.
I know I know! It’s exciting to find some like-minded friends and community and see content that’s finally ringing all your bells! But trust me, there are some really good reasons to slow your roll:
- Not all empaths are the same. Some people will be really hung up on labels, others are really free-flowing, some are really structured about adhering to definitions and then there are some folks who are really into the blame game. You have to wait and see what that group or page is like. And if it’s not a fit, won’t you be glad you waited ?
- Depending on the size of the group, you may not immediately see content that is actually indicative of what plays out there. There might be too much content flowing or not enough.Hang out. Wait and see. If you want to be part of a group where people are connecting and commenting on each other’s posts, then maybe a group with over 25K is not the best place to start. Conversely, if you want to be somewhere that’s really rapid paced, constantly full of content and maybe does live streams then a big, busy group might be your cup of tea.And remember, we’ve all been beginners. Some folks just want to learn and connect with others and it’s not inherently a bad thing even if it might feel energy draining to you. Go back to your intentions and boundaries. That way you’re going to know what type of group situations will leave you feeling energized and excited versus frustrated and tired.
- If you are feeling iffy about the group right off the bat – walk away. Nothing lost, you can always go back and in different time and there is literally 100 other groups that can give you what you want or need right now.
Have fun hanging back. Read the posts and comments. See if you are in alignment with what is being posted, and with the content and energy of the people that you are seeing.
It’s up to you to decide what it’s going to work for you and what doesn’t. Trust your instincts!
The only constant about Facebook is that it is constantly changing.
Same thing happens with business pages and groups. If you love the content and people and feel good – then right on!
If not, no worries.
You can either leave for greener pastures. Or choose to stay a member of the group and just click the unfollow button so you aren’t getting notifications anymore.
There is a world of information at our fingertips these day. Being able to embrace your awesome empathic super-skills combined with a bit of Facebook knowhow means you can conquer the world! Or at least, enjoy the ride. ha ha.
Thanks for joining me and next time, we’ll be chatting about taking the leap into sharing info about you!
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